Years ago, I wasn’t happy and never felt fulfilled. I thought it was my current situation or someone else’s fault, and for years I put that responsibility in other people’s hands or blamed the situation I was in. I never took responsibility for my actions or myself. Yes, I did this. It is something that I don’t love owning up to, but I wasn’t happy with myself and I needed to search for what caused this unhappiness.
By putting the responsibility of my happiness in other people’s hands or the situation I was in, I was not only setting myself up to fail, but I was putting a negative cloud over myself. After figuring this out, it made me realize just how often I made excuses and passed off the blame in other areas of my life. No wonder I wasn’t happy!
You may not think you make excuses or pass blame. You may even find yourself getting irritated when you notice other people doing these things—so how could you be doing them yourself? I know I have done this so many times in the past and what has helped me was to step back and re-examine what was really going on.
I challenge you to start taking a look at yourself. Pay attention to your choices, your decisions, and your reasons for doing (or not doing) certain things. You might be surprised to find just how many excuses you make on a day-to-day basis.
Don’t pass judgement on yourself…just notice what comes up and really pay attention.