Mommy guilt is an equal-opportunity affliction. It can strike whether you’re 20 or 40, stay at home momma or running your own company. This is one thing that you want to check to make sure if it’s keeping you balanced or going to the extremes.
Why is there such a thing called MOMMY GUILT? And Why didn’t anyone warn me??
I know for me it’s because my child is at daycare all day while I’m hard at work. I feel guilty that I can’t snuggle and play with her all day while I’m off working. I feel guilty not being able to enjoy all of her big moments in life (even though, I feel shes tried to wait till we get home to see her first of her many achievements), I feel guilty to have to work, have a social life, and also but not the least to take care of myself by getting “me” time in. I have to remind myself constantly that it’s a good thing for her to be with other people. It will help my daughter grow into a strong young woman, let her play with her friends her own age, learn new her cognitive and social skills and build up her immunity. I know there is more but my child is only 17 months old, she will learn more with others as she ages.
Lately, I have been hearing a lot from others that people are having a hard time getting their work out in because either they are a stay-at home mom or working mom they feel bad to leave them for a bit to go to the gym or even doing a work out in their own home; or the women that work all day don’t have time to work out because they want to spend time with their child. Believe me I have the same issue when I do my own work out, but I know that I need to do this because it is only going to make me a better mom, wife and keep me healthy.
Not only does fitting in my work outs and balancing my family, working on building my personal training business, and blogging (which right now my little lady is tugging at my sleeve). I’m literally trying to fit in everything but I keep what helps me is to keep a balanced schedule to keep me sane so everything done. Not only do I need to do this, I know how important it is so I just make it work.
Working moms often struggle with intense guilt — especially when they first go back. Since returning to a job I love, after 2 months I had given birth I thought I’d feel happy and worthwhile. I didn’t expect those feelings to be so tempered by guilt.
Working moms can also feel guilty for wanting to work. I was tearful and upset when she left my daughter at daycare but I was super lucky to have someone I knew take care of Adrianna and felt relieved to have some time away from her colic. I had two kinds of guilt one for leaving her and guilt for wanting the break.
One thing I can say, is to stay away from the online “mommy wars” between working and at-home moms, and tune out any judgmental comments you may receive. This vulnerable period is no time to jump into a fight. Every mom deals with some judgments either staying home or working, but what you need to do is ignore and be happy with what you decide because you are the one that needs to be happy in turn your kids will be happy. There are many supportive online forums for working mothers or stay at home moms can go for support that will help ease any kind of issues that may come up.
You know you’re doing what’s best for your family, whether you’re working for financial reasons or because it makes you happy. Never let anyone make you feel bad for your decisions because you are the only that know that knows what is right for you and your family.
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Thank you for this post! I needed it:) I would love to get back into a healthy, guilt-free, workout routine.