Sorry writing has been super slow lately. I have been extremely busy and trying to do a lot of things on my own that I should have asked for help because it would have took me a lot less time to get done. Which will be what my blog is about today…when we need to ask for help.
We all need help at some point. I will be honest, I’m stubborn and I think I can do everything on my own. That is not a good thing at all. I also don’t ask for help because I feel bad asking. This is my ego getting in the way, and this is something I’m working on.
Everyone has these feelings on a certain level, but figuring out that it’s okay to ask is more than fine. Asking for help doesn’t mean you can’t do it, it just means you don’t have to do it alone. Most of us thrive on relationships. Isn’t it more fun to do things with others? Asking for help allows us to get there and even take someone with us.
When we’re struggling with something, it’s natural to turn to others for help. Helping each other is all part of the giving and receiving that makes up good relationships.
Getting help sounds simple. But it’s not always easy to do. Sometimes we stand in our own way without realizing it.
Certain beliefs or ways of thinking can make it hard to see opportunities for help. Here are some examples of the kinds of attitudes that can stand in the way — and ideas on how to get past them.
Asking for help shows maturity and confidence. It’s a sign of strength, not weakness. You know what you need and you’re not afraid to reach out for it.
Not Speaking up for what you need. Sometimes you’re lucky enough to have people in your life who see what you need and offer to help before you ask. Usually it’s a parent or a close friend. But sometimes when we need help, we have to ask. The best approach is to be clear and direct, like saying, I’m having trouble with this. Can you help me?
Waiting for someone else to make the first move. It’s not always easy for other people to see when we need help. Maybe we’re putting on a cheerful face to mask the problem or giving off a vibe that we don’t want to talk. Don’t wait for someone to read your mind or notice what you need. Ask.
Giving up too easily. If help doesn’t get us what we expect right away, it’s tempting to give up. But getting help takes ongoing effort. It might take multiple attempt.
This all being said, ask for help when you need it. It doesn’t mean your weak, it means that you are strong enough to ask.